underdeppressedgoddess wrote: ....hes an ass a shallow ass grls are better than there looks like there personality...god i would hate to be your girlfriend


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The Black wrote: I mighta already made this example, I'm not sure.

Ok, another question/example.

Ok say you're a teenage guy/girl in high school. Personality-wise, you see yourself as a trendy, up-to-date, funny, outgoing, daring, nice, and all around a good personality. Wether you are ugly or good looking on the outside, you want somoene who has alot in common with you, that being someone who is generally, trendy, funny, and outgoing. You find yourself not wanting to be made fun of by your peers, so you at least want to be with a girl/guy who is attractive enough to feel comfortable around your freinds. Also, for your own interests, you find that "attractive" girls/guys seem to "make you melt" more than the girls/guys you find unnattractive. But all through you're high school life, the only girls/guys that seem to like you are either special ed, missing arms or legs, have extreme weight problems, or just have the personality of a pile of squirrel poop and have the looks and style to match. As you walk through the halls, and even meet new freinds, you meet so many people who you would go out with if they just would give you a chance, but you watch as all your freinds, instead of you, go out with those people, just because you seem to be "not good looking" enough to go out with those people, since "good looks + good personality" = better than just "good personality" to most people. No matter how hard you try, those girls/guys who seem like "the all around perfect people for you" always make comments like "i'de date you if you were taller/better looking/ect." Finally, rather than just settling for one of those deformed special eds, you get depressed and start loosing your interests in dating, until one day you realize you've already graduated, and haven't had one real girlfreind, and you know you aren't attractive enough to be the type that would fit in at a club or walking around the mall to meet people.

How would you feel?

xhorizonlinex wrote:
Holy lord, I'd feel terrible. You know, maybe you should write a sad story book, because you seem to be incredibly talented at describing horridly sad things.
You know what's even more sad? You won't even give YOURSELF a chance. And you know, I might be some 14 year old sophomore, and I might not know all there is to know about life, but I do know that if you don't give yourself a chance first, and if you don't like yourself first, then NOBODY will like you. I think it's absolutely terrible the way you put yourself down and the bleak way you paint the picture of your life. Because in reality, I'm sure you're going through a phase much like I am where you really dislike your looks, and would really like a girlfriend who is attractive. Nothing more than a phase. So please, stop posting these terrible things about yourself. It will not help you in any way.
Firstly, I feel you are being shallow, to be honest. So WHAT if the girl who likes you is in special ed, missing arms or legs, or has extreme weight problems? When I read about how terrible you make yourself seem, you sure do have high standards. How extremely shallow it is to say that you wouldn't go out with someone who has a physical or mental problem they can't help, or even has weight problems. What the hell is wrong with you.
I have had two girlfriends, both of which were overweight. But you know what, even though they weren't the "hottest kids in high school", or the "best looking and popular girls", I still liked them a lot for who they were, accepted them, and they liked me as well. They were both great people. Unfortunately things didn't work out with them, but it was never because of their looks or personality. They're both friends of mine now, and I haven't regretted meeting either of them. So give people a chance. That also includes yourself. Being superficial is an ugly quality in itself.
And the last thing I want to say is that you need to believe that there is someone, somewhere out there who will be attractive to you, and you to her, and you will be able to love and be loved. Sure, it may sound like a fool's hope, but although it all sounds cliché, it's true. I believe it with all my heart and soul. I know there's going to be someone out there for me, and for you too, and we just haven't met them yet. In the meantime, spend a lot of time with friends and build on friendships. Because when a girl dumps you, they're still there for you, always. And along the way, when you start to forget about however you may feel about your looks and the inhibitions you may have, you may just bump into someone who really does care much more about the personality than the shell that holds it. You shouldn't have to try. Always be you; life's too short to be anyone else.
I really do hope this helps, and know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. I know you'll find that special someone someday. Hold on.

The Black wrote: For one thing, no im not shallow.
I'm me.
Just because i dont wanna date the ugliest fattest girl in school doesnt mean im shallow.
If you'll tell me that you'de date the ugliest fattest girl in school and like it, then ill consider myself shallow, but no one will ever ever say that unless that have a fetish for fat and ugly.
End of story.
And i think of my personality so highly that i do not want to accept someone that i dont want.
There are people out there who will get with those ugly fat people but im not for them and their not for me and i know that.
I dont see the beauty in them and its not my fault.

@emo stomper: um why are you on this site? obviously you should be on jockbucket or something. wake up. scene girls dont like the whole jock buff football player thing. nope. they like the skinny guys with long hair who are in bands. what the fuck are you thinking?

@who ever that guy was: why would telling about your love life with 15 girls help me?

@who ever else saying im shallow: wtf? your not? i dont think that i have to accept worse off things in life just because im ugly. i mean i feel embarassed around really ugly girls even because i feel like a loser even more for being around them. shallow or whatver, i want to be around people who make me feel good about me. and who doesnt want that. the people that all of yall probably make fun of every day are the people yall are saying i should get with. and thats not for me.

like i said, im around plenty of hot girls during the day. After being around them, how do you expect me to like girls that are way uglier? thats like working in a bank and seeing tons of money everyday. finally your gonna hate being poor after seeing all that money being given to someone else.

Besides, i havent even met one ugly person that i truly get along with. Most really nerdy ugly people and me have nothing in common, im not intrested in pokemon cards, or RPG's, or anime. And about every nerdy ugly person ive ever met is. It all has to do with how much you get out of your house. And while i rarely do, im really intrested in things like parties, hanging out with freinds, normal things, and bands. although things like that never happen. (cept the music)and how do you express those interests with someone who has no clue what your talking about?

And about marylin manson lol, he has the whole ugly but hot thing going on. Mainly because you dont see marilyn manson walking around with a big fat nose that is wider than his mouth. beleive me, a nose can make a true difference between someone that is hot and someone thats not.

And in my veiw, something simple as my nose shouldnt decide who im forced to go out with or what type of life i have. yet it does all the time. Thats why when i get older i really wanna have plastic surgery so i can change it and look normal for once and be accepted more.

The Black wrote: Alright, well im 17, a senior in high school, and ive never been in love.
No one has ever fallen in love with me.
I've had about 6 girlfreinds.
Only 3 i really liked, and the others i was forced to go out with (basically they were reallllly ugly)
But the 3 i liked, all stayed with me for bout a week then they broke up.

Well, 1st off, im a really ugly guy. My style is like scene, but im so ugly in the face that i dont even have a "ugly scene" look.
My face is just weird, and doesn't look good in any style i do.
And doesn't fit anything i do.
One main thing is im a white guy, but I have a really fat nose, and it looks deformed.
Well anyway, Despite all that, im very out-going at school (when i can be cuz not many people like me) but around the friends i have, im very happy and outgoing (i tell close freinds my problems but like i dont mope all the time)
But anyway, i do have alot of freinds who are very hot girls, and are the exact girls that would be my type, because of coarse, they love me for my personality.
trouble is, not a single one of them ever "like" me. I try flirting with girls all the time, especially this one girl i like, and i say really nice things, im not a asshole, and i treat them so nice and do the things other guys have. But none of them will fall for me.
I also have never had sex, any type of it, im still a virgin, and the reaosn most people arent is when girls and guys hang out in houses, things happen even if they arent together, but no girls EVER ask me to hangh out, and even when i ask all my freinds who are girls to hang out, none of them ever do, even if i ask repeatedly.
Its really impossible for me to fall for somoene "uglier" because im so used to being around hotter girls and at least knowing what its like to being around hotter people who know how to have fun.
Because inside, im a very kinky, sexy, out-going, "scene" person.
but on the outside, someone would expect me to go out with the school "fattest girl" because looks-wise i can't get anything better.
And yes, 3 out of 6 of my gfs were realllllllly fat girls.
And honestly, for my personality I NEED someone more attractive cuz those are the only people who fit my personality.
All the ugly people are wayyyy too shy and stuff for me.
Thats why when i get older, im considering plastic surgery because i literally was born with a face that doesn't match at all who i am on the inside, and that causes me not to find anyone to spend my life with.
Cuz no one wants a "outgoing but really ugly guy"....people will settle for "shy hot people" before "outgoing ugly guys"
and since im very sexful, ide have to be with someone who is very sexful too, but who wants to have sex everyday with somoene really ugly?
Ugly couples only have sex when they need a baby.

BUt i need some advice, what can i do to get a hot girl?
Im a skinny guy, its just my face is very jacked up.
And i try to have all the style i can, but it still doesn't work.
I flirt all i can, and ask to hang out with girls all i can
But nothing works.
Is there really any special way to get a attractive girl who's hot on the inside and out if you are just ugly?
or are you doomed to find someone who could never turn you on?

ninjaxkitteh wrote:

The Black wrote: For one thing, no im not shallow.
I'm me.
Just because i dont wanna date the ugliest fattest girl in school doesnt mean im shallow.
If you'll tell me that you'de date the ugliest fattest girl in school and like it, then ill consider myself shallow, but no one will ever ever say that unless that have a fetish for fat and ugly.
End of story.
And i think of my personality so highly that i do not want to accept someone that i dont want.
There are people out there who will get with those ugly fat people but im not for them and their not for me and i know that.
I dont see the beauty in them and its not my fault.

@emo stomper: um why are you on this site? obviously you should be on jockbucket or something. wake up. scene girls dont like the whole jock buff football player thing. nope. they like the skinny guys with long hair who are in bands. what the fuck are you thinking?

@who ever that guy was: why would telling about your love life with 15 girls help me?

@who ever else saying im shallow: wtf? your not? i dont think that i have to accept worse off things in life just because im ugly. i mean i feel embarassed around really ugly girls even because i feel like a loser even more for being around them. shallow or whatver, i want to be around people who make me feel good about me. and who doesnt want that. the people that all of yall probably make fun of every day are the people yall are saying i should get with. and thats not for me.

like i said, im around plenty of hot girls during the day. After being around them, how do you expect me to like girls that are way uglier? thats like working in a bank and seeing tons of money everyday. finally your gonna hate being poor after seeing all that money being given to someone else.

Besides, i havent even met one ugly person that i truly get along with. Most really nerdy ugly people and me have nothing in common, im not intrested in pokemon cards, or RPG's, or anime. And about every nerdy ugly person ive ever met is. It all has to do with how much you get out of your house. And while i rarely do, im really intrested in things like parties, hanging out with freinds, normal things, and bands. although things like that never happen. (cept the music)and how do you express those interests with someone who has no clue what your talking about?

And about marylin manson lol, he has the whole ugly but hot thing going on. Mainly because you dont see marilyn manson walking around with a big fat nose that is wider than his mouth. beleive me, a nose can make a true difference between someone that is hot and someone thats not.

And in my veiw, something simple as my nose shouldnt decide who im forced to go out with or what type of life i have. yet it does all the time. Thats why when i get older i really wanna have plastic surgery so i can change it and look normal for once and be accepted more.

er, yea! u ARE shallow. how can judging people to be losers/nerds by their looks/weight and NOT be shallow? how would u like it if others did this to u? or are they already, and you're just being a hypocrite complaining about it and then doing the same thing..?
and why are u so obsessed with 'normal'?? what makes anime 'bad' or 'geeky'? i know plenty of decent-looking people, including myself, who have fun RPGing, watching anime, AND hanging out, going to parties, etc. just cuz u do one doesnt exclude the other. and most 'normal' activities are extremely boring and WAY overrated.
and i can just tell by how great u think u are and your choice in women, that after/if u get this plastic surgery, you'll be a complete asshole to anyone u deem 'uglier' than u. so i hope u hav a great time living a vain, naiive, 'socially accepted' life.
people like u piss me off.