Well, my mom forced me to get out of a relationship that I had been in for over a year. She said we were 'too close' and 'too serious' for this age. If your the kind of person that thinks you have to be an 'adult' to be in love, then dont even bother to reply. But since we live about an hour away, it's not like i can sneak and see him. I'm not allowed to text him (she checks our phone bills) and I can only talk to him for two hours a day. It was all kind of immediate, and a huge change for us. It hurts us both so bad, but I dont know what to do about it. I guess this was really more of a rant... but if any one has advice out there... feel free to let me know what I can/should do. ="(

my friend had this problem a couple of years ago


my advice is to just hold on. parents are so paranoid these days it's stupid. if you guys really like eachother then you should wait for a time when you can be with eachother, and don't let ANYONE stop you from being with who you want to be with. that's my advice. i don't know if it's good, but it's what i have to say..

i hope everything works out for you guys

thanx,
that's what we're trying to do... but gosh, it just hurts so incredibly bad )=
but thanx for teh advice, im glad some1 wants 2 help. (=

I know what you mean. My parents would do the same thing. They thought I got too serious with relationships, but the truth was the only kind I looked for were serious ones.

They would limit me like yours do you.

It does hurt, badly. Not being able to contact each other as often.

Just do your best not to grow apart, and eventually your parents won't be able to do anything about it. My mom got a lot less paranoid when I turned 16 because she knows I could do what I wanted if I wanted to.

That love isn't a choice, or a switch to be flicked on or off when wished.
They don't view it like you, they see you as just a child that can't make decisions. Prove them wrong.

xXlove hurtsXx wrote: thanx,
that's what we're trying to do... but gosh, it just hurts so incredibly bad )=
but thanx for teh advice, im glad some1 wants 2 help. (=

i know...and i'm sorry =(

but i hope everything gets better

and you are very welcome

and if you ever need anything, just message me, ok? i want to help as much as i can, because i know it's hard

Little Soul wrote: I know what you mean. My parents would do the same thing. They thought I got too serious with relationships, but the truth was the only kind I looked for were serious ones.

They would limit me like yours do you.

It does hurt, badly. Not being able to contact each other as often.

Just do your best not to grow apart, and eventually your parents won't be able to do anything about it. My mom got a lot less paranoid when I turned 16 because she knows I could do what I wanted if I wanted to.

That love isn't a choice, or a switch to be flicked on or off when wished.
They don't view it like you, they see you as just a child that can't make decisions. Prove them wrong.

Thanx (= that's really good advice.
We're trying to make things work... but they're the kind of ppl that think you can't fall in love at a young age, and they think that we're too serious which is stupid... is that really a bad thing?!

XxbrokenwingsxX wrote:
i know...and i'm sorry =(

but i hope everything gets better

and you are very welcome

and if you ever need anything, just message me, ok? i want to help as much as i can, because i know it's hard

kay, I will, thanx 4 bein there... sometimes you just need some1 that's there for u.
thanx again (=

its true.. i think holding on will not solve any problem.
parent's are paranoid.. its true,,.. i think u should tell
him to come half the way and u sneak half the way and meet and talk.. also i think u should go and meet him freely after all u're greatest strength is u're love.. don't think about parents.. they will not hurt u and they just scold u.. so just listen by one ear and throw it out by another ear.. i think that'll work

mohit wrote: its true.. i think holding on will not solve any problem.
parent's are paranoid.. its true,,.. i think u should tell
him to come half the way and u sneak half the way and meet and talk.. also i think u should go and meet him freely after all u're greatest strength is u're love.. don't think about parents.. they will not hurt u and they just scold u.. so just listen by one ear and throw it out by another ear.. i think that'll work

i wish it were that simple... he lives an hr away.
if i went half way... that's 30 min. by car, it would be like 2 hrs. by walking. And where I live like everyone knows each other... if ppl see me randomly walking somewhere, they would call meh parents and ask what was up...
then i probably wouldn't be allowed to talk to him. period.

I just can't even imagine anyones parents to force you to break up with someone just cuz your seirous in your relation.
I mean who would make you stop seeing and talking to someone you realy like?!
I dont realy have any advice for you. Just what I would have done.
I would see him anyways. and text him. and call him 24/7 right infront of my parents. And if they said anything I'd tell them to shut the fu** up. Id Take my bike to go meet him half way there. I would probably even run away and act realy bitchy to my parents so that they know how angry I am.
But ofcourse this seem kinda schildish, But which parent can contiue to punish you if you arent even there?

xXlove hurtsXx wrote:

Little Soul wrote: I know what you mean. My parents would do the same thing. They thought I got too serious with relationships, but the truth was the only kind I looked for were serious ones.

They would limit me like yours do you.

It does hurt, badly. Not being able to contact each other as often.

Just do your best not to grow apart, and eventually your parents won't be able to do anything about it. My mom got a lot less paranoid when I turned 16 because she knows I could do what I wanted if I wanted to.

That love isn't a choice, or a switch to be flicked on or off when wished.
They don't view it like you, they see you as just a child that can't make decisions. Prove them wrong.

Thanx (= that's really good advice.
We're trying to make things work... but they're the kind of ppl that think you can't fall in love at a young age, and they think that we're too serious which is stupid... is that really a bad thing?!

Part of it is them not wanting you to grow up too fast.
And the other part of it is they want to make sure you keep your options open, so that you can have fun, and not make up your mind right away.

They're just looking out for you, really.
Though it can be tiresome in your position.

try and not to fall for someone else,and wait till you can go out

DeadRoses wrote: I would probably even run away

He's getting his permit this year. We've talked about running away, then comming back when we're 18 so they can't say anything about it... i've just been worried about getting into legal trouble. Is that possible?

Little Soul wrote: Part of it is them not wanting you to grow up too fast.
And the other part of it is they want to make sure you keep your options open, so that you can have fun, and not make up your mind right away.

The 'not growing up' part is probably my dad, he's so over protective. and the 'options open' part is probably my mom. She first got married when she was 14, and that one didn't work out... So she probably don't want me to make the same mistake as her, right?

LittleToolInsane wrote: try and not to fall for someone else,and wait till you can go out

Yea... that's what we're doing now... I know I won't fall for any one else, I like the boy way too much. I know he likes me the same, but my nerves get the best of me and I still worry.

sorry to hear that,
maybe you should talk to him outside or during school?
and like your mom said don't get too into it, but don't part so far too.
Because breaking a years relationship takes some time to get over.
Also talk to your mom about this problem and tell her that it isnt
too serious, if she still dosent agree with you try to prove it to her
i mean being close friends dosent hurt either

when parents do this they usually think that u don't really love the person and all you want is sex. if this is true then you shouldn't be in that relationship, but if it's not try to explain to her that you love him,truthfully. She may or may not change her mind.

I kinda know what youre going thruogh except my parents didnt make me break up with my boyfriend when i dropped below a c in my math class my dad only let me use my phone for two hours for ANYONE... sorry rambling on anyway the only thing i can think for you to do is just wait it out til your parents get over it OR you turn 18. Hopefully the former will happen first. Then you could move with him or get married and move with him. Then as you said theres the possibilty of running away when he can drive and has a car. That could work but hten theres also hte possibility of them(your parents) finding you then claiming it was kidnap and you two be TOTALLY blocked from each other(sorry if that sounds kinda drastic but ive had the same talk with my boyfriend and my parents are actually the type to do something like that:(. Which would completely suck. I say just wait it out and hopefully your parents will get over it. Hope everything works out