Should a gay couple be allowed to adopt??

advicesim wrote:

Strawberry Switchblade wrote: You haven't said any reason why lacking a male influence in the house has contributed to his behavior. Nothing you described sounds out of the ordinary.

if youd met him...... you would understand

No.
He might be a bitch.

But you still have not given one shred of evidence that it's due to lack of male influence.

Why are we giving social norms to genders anyway? Saying that the male MUST be the tough one, and the woman MUST be the loving, caring one.

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Ningage wrote:
No.
He might be a bitch.

But you still have not given one shred of evidence that it's due to lack of male influence.

Why are we giving social norms to genders anyway? Saying that the male MUST be the tough one, and the woman MUST be the loving, caring one.

im not trying to prove to you that its cause of lack of male influence... i was just giving the situation... I was just saying that I believe hes how annoying and angering as he is because he doesnt have a male around

im not meaning to give a social normal... i never said that the male must be tough... or the girl must be caring and loving...... i was just give the situation

advicesim wrote: im fine with gay couples adopting, but it does sometimes change the kid

ex- mom, 4 daughters, 1 son (no father, no male influence around the house) [i know its not a gay couple but still] the one son is i think in 6th grade.... and hes the most obnoxious little shit in the world... he calls me emo 8 and anyone else who looks 'emo'... now i believe he is like this because he hasnt had a male influence around.

im just saying though

advicesim wrote: im not trying to prove to you that its cause of lack of male influence... i was just giving the situation... I was just saying that I believe hes how annoying and angering as he is because he doesnt have a male around

i still say its bad parenting, not a lack of male influence
in my experience, guys raised by single mother can be the nicest, but if they have a failure for a mother they turn out to be shitheads

I think that 2 men should not be allowed to raise a child. It will cause confusion for the child, result in undeserved teasing, and create a void between them and their peers.

flowmo wrote: I think that 2 men should not be allowed to raise a child. It will cause confusion for the child, result in undeserved teasing, and create a void between them and their peers.

What about two women?

flowmo wrote: I think that 2 men should not be allowed to raise a child. It will cause confusion for the child, result in undeserved teasing, and create a void between them and their peers.

Interracial children used to be teased, but now they're accepted by society. Breaking social norms takes time.

VenusDoom wrote:

flowmo wrote: I think that 2 men should not be allowed to raise a child. It will cause confusion for the child, result in undeserved teasing, and create a void between them and their peers.

What about two women?

good question

aztekk wrote: Interracial children used to be teased, but now they're accepted by society. Breaking social norms takes time.

and not all that long ago, unwed parents where frowned upon. if a young woman got knocked up, she was sent away for the duration of the pregnancy, and forced to give the child up for adoption.
society is changing, and as it does, the concept of a "normal" childhood is disappearing
there are more people who come from, broken families, mixed race backgrounds, mixed religions, being brought up by anything from grand parents to a single parent, to four parents, to aunts, uncles, or even siblings, than children in an old fashioned family with married parents of opposite genders and a sibling or two.

KittensKill wrote:
society is changing.

it is, but with so many people who are homophobic and stuff will it change fast enough for people to be confortable with gay people adopting?

i dont know, maybe its because im in such a hick state and stuff, but around where i live alot of people are VERY uncomfortable with homosexuality

i once asked my mom what her reaction would be if i told her i was a lesbian, she said that she would kick me out of the house

advicesim wrote: it is, but with so many people who are homophobic and stuff will it change fast enough for people to be confortable with gay people adopting?

depends on where you live

advicesim wrote: [i dont know, maybe its because im in such a hick state and stuff, but around where i live alot of people are VERY uncomfortable with homosexuality

theres the problem.
I'm on another forum where some people believe that homosexuals should be killed
it would be no different if i thought all christians should be shot

its unjustified hate

advicesim wrote: i once asked my mom what her reaction would be if i told her i was a lesbian, she said that she would kick me out of the house

so much for a mothers unconditional love

A child has to have a big old tough guy and a mother growing up or else they'll go crazy! LOL!

Gays shouldn't be allowed to adopt. They should've thought about wanting children before they went all gay.

KittensKill wrote:

advicesim wrote: [i dont know, maybe its because im in such a hick state and stuff, but around where i live alot of people are VERY uncomfortable with homosexuality

theres the problem.
I'm on another forum where some people believe that homosexuals should be killed
it would be no different if i thought all christians should be shot its unjustified hate

ahhhh its the new hitler!... i hate it that there againt gays, there people too... its like being racist

KittensKill wrote:

advicesim wrote: i once asked my mom what her reaction would be if i told her i was a lesbian, she said that she would kick me out of the house

so much for a mothers unconditional love

exactly how i feel haha

DarkHunter wrote: Gays shouldn't be allowed to adopt. They should've thought about wanting children before they went all gay.

this is still like debated, but its not exactly like going 'all gay'... how can you help who your attracted to

have you ever heard the saying "love is blind"?

If a couple wishes to adopt a child, and obviously have the ability to be decent parents....why not?

I See No Problem In It At All, They Should Be Allowed.

In many parts of the world a gay person can adopt an orphaned family member,
but a couple can not
why? is this a fair thing?


also
heres some info one who can adopt in what countries
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_adoption