helpp..

Rightt ... Thiss is a long story but please bare with me..
a few months ago.. Me and my long term boyfriend broke up after 9 months.. I had been trying to forget about him for alongg time but it was really difficult.. Then two weeks ago i met someonee.. and i hate to say it but i have fallen for him. The only thing is, is thatt he has only just come out of a 3 year relationshipp... Well last night he wa on the phone to his ex for ages and basically she has started self harming and stuff because she misses him and shes threatning to kill herself.. He told me that he likes me too and he kisses me and tells me he loves me.. But its almost like hes changed his mind about me because last night he said he only told me he loves me to see how it felt but it felt horrid.. He said he doesnt want to hurt me but he already has.
He was saying how he feels guilty about his ex self harming .. but he hasnt seen mine.. I just feel like theres no point anymore.. I have been lead on i no it.. but he is the nicest person ive met in a long time.. i really like him tbh.. Hes perfect..
But i'm really confused as to where i stand with him.. wether he likes me or not..wether he wants something to happen between us or not..
Last week he said were seeing eachother.. I dont know if that still stands..
I just need someone to talk to tbh..
<3 xxx

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If he was telling you he loed you when he really didn't just too see how it felt that's a horrible thing to do
Unless I misunderstood

Tell him he shouldn't feel guilty about his ex though
It's not his fault that she's a bitch
Honestly, I loathe people who say they will commit suicide to force a broken relationship back together
It means she really mustn't care about him and is only looking out for herself
Make him realise this, and then he can focus only on you

Maybe you two need to slow down a little
Don't let your feelings for your ex's be confused with the feelings you have for each other in a new relationship

He needs to be open and honest with you though, if he can't do that now, he never will be able too. In that case it's probably best to steer clear

I no.. My best friend has been telling me he is leading me on but i really do have feelings for him...
thank you for your advise.. i will talk to him laterr:) x

Maybe if your close to a few people that know him well they'd be able to give you a better opinion of his intentions aswell

You could
Or do some internet sluthing
I've often found it useful
All you really need to do for basics is type his email into google, and it'll show you a lot about a person