NEED HELP BEING PULLED IN MILLIONS OF DIRECTIONS

i need some ones help... i have these friends that are bugging the shit out of me and i need to help them one likes the other and the other dosent like them and on top of that i have other shit that i have to worry about what am i suppose to do... plz help me with some advice if some one will.

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Be direct with your friend and tell them that the other dosen't like them in a romantic way
One obviously dosen't want to possibly ruin a friendship
Being upfront about it seems like the best way to deal with the situation

Anyone who's bugging you tell to STFU

ive tried that and it dosent work i tell them all the time and now we are like getting mad at each other

Maybe distancing yourself from the issue could help
Perhaps not help the situation, but it would keep you away from a lot of the discomfort
If there is a confrontation, and your not involved, you can act as a tie between the two friends to perhaps bring them back into good terms with each other

true but how can i possibly get them to even talk to each other????

deamnd wrote: true but how can i possibly get them to even talk to each other????

It's probably a step they have to make mainly on their own
But you can put the ideas into their heads
If you drop subtle hints every now and then they'll eventually pick up on it and spend a lot of time thinking about it
Hopefully a lot of the problems are resolved by a bit of time and distance anyhow

that is true thank you and i will tell you how it goes thanx alot...

No matter what you try to do, someone just won't like someone else. You can't change how someone feels, and if they don't want to ruin the friendship then have them tell the other person straight up that they don't feel that way towards them.

You can't make someone feel something that isn't there.

As for distancing yourself, I'd say do it. Whenever I get stressed, I go to my Dad's which is a few hours away, and I always feel so much better. You may not have the option of going that far away, but even just not talking to them for a few days will help, despite how much it could hurt.

well they have already ruend the friendship it is not there anymore and i dont know where else to go i live in the middle of nowhere and i have no musical games to play on ps2 anymore some one stole them so i cant focus anymore

deamnd wrote: that is true thank you and i will tell you how it goes thanx alot...

Anytime
I wish you well

will you add me on your friends both of you???

distance yourself from your friends...let them know you have you own stuff to deal with, but that you are still there for them...At the end of the day, its not your problem, and you arent always gonna be there to make things easy and pick up the peices, maybe they need to learn the hard way...
As for 'your own shit', depending on what it is about, talk to someone, see a school guidance counciler, etc etc...Or, seen as you have no problem with it so far, ask the interwebs [aka-us]...
Hope things get better...

i actualy probably will be there for everything that they will need help with them... i have alwayse been there for my friend (the guy) becouse i have known him sence i was in the second grade and i dont want him killing himself trust me he will do it....

You might always be there for support, but you cant always be there to do everything...You have your own life, and so do they...He needs to learn how to use it, rather than relying on you to sort everything out...Make sure he knows this...
As for killing himself...would he really..? If so, he needs proffesional help..But the likelihoodd is its hollow threats, and that he wouldnt, especially not over a girl (or guy?) You need to back off and he needs to live a little, maybe then he will see suicide isnt the answer, cos in a way he never had a life, not if he always has someone there to deal with every little thing life throws at him...

i understand where you are comeing from but i am the only one that actualy understands him becouse his mother walked out on him when he was only 6 and his dad was never there so i pritty much watched over him wile he was growing up and i saved him from killing himself before he lives by himself and im one of the only ppl keeping him alive so i cant just strand him all by himself...