I need advice well my boyfriends had a hard life, his dad left them, his older brother died a couple years back in a car accident, and now his mom just died because she was taking antidepressants and drank alcohol and they mixed and caused a heart attack. He found her in her bed soem hours later because he was at his friends at a pool party. He imediatly called here and my aunt anwered cause I was in bed asleep adn told hiom to call 911 and they would be over there, not too long after they came back and woke me up, I of course being half asleep thought it was a dream, until I got to his house and was cryng so hard as I held him in my arms and soaked my shirt. Now I don't know what to say to him, he is stay in Pennsylvainna about 8 hours from here for 3 weeks with his moms close friends, hes 17 im 16. I miss him nut I never know what to say to him, he won't talk about his mom with anyone not even me, which hurts, why is that? He is all alone now, and is going to have to grow up too fast. I'm afraid he wont need me anymore. I just really don't know what to do. any advice? thanx

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brokenlove16 wrote: hes 17 im 16.

Your thing says you're 18? Which is it?

Just be there for him as best you can, he'll talk when he is ready.

Maybe giving it time will make it easier for him to talk about? The more you push him about it the less he is going to want to do it.I know you want to help but sometimes that's the best you can do, don't assume that he won't need you.

well Im really 16 lol soz

thanx to all who replied it helped a little bit

Don't push him. Even though he's growing up, he will still need you. More so now than before. He may not be ready to talk yet, but just be there for him and let him know that you love him and won't leave him. What he needs now is to know that there's still someone who cares for him and isn't going to leave him. You don't have to say much, just that you're there and ready to listen when he's ready to talk.

Everyone else pretty much said it all, but I agree. Just be there and be willing to listen should he decide he's ready to talk.
Being there is probably the best thing you could do.

it's always hard for others to talk about the death of someone close, i'd try to give it time and try to talk to him as much as you could. the more you two talk the more he will slowly start to open to you. you shouldn't rush him to talk about that event because its hard to think about a painful memory. i would definitely give it time and comfort him too.