Having had experiences with relationships with both genders I would have to say that there are different "rules" to follow about being shy or not shy. When you're in the role of a hetero female I'd say it's probably best to wait for males to be interested in you and then you have to sort through the deck and eliminate those that don't fit what you desire.
This just sort of came to me and I figured I would let you know since you seem to want my opinion on this.
So, are you saying that since there are plenty of guys out there that i shouldn't stress myself over trying to get the attention just one?
Btw, all except cute guys I've pretty much gotten over being shy.