Marriage

I don't really care either way.
I have a view of marriage that uses agnostic qualifications.

If I'm with someone long enough, and they want to think about marriage, I'm probably open to it.
If no one talks of marriage, or I feel I'd rather just not get married, then I'm down with that too.

It's all about the who, what, when, where, and how.

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Meh, I want to have the same rights to get married as a straight couple, but I don't necessarily want to get married.

I don't need a piece of paper to prove my love, do I?

HxC FiALURE wrote:

TextFire wrote: I think people marry because they figure it would be best for their[future] kids.

That raises more questions.
Some people think the only reason people marry/have sex is to help repopulate the earth. Or that should be the only reason.
I personally think that's bullshit. People shouldn't marry to have kids, and not all married people will have kids.

More opinions on this?

Yes. I don't agree with marrying just for kids, but I know others do. My mother said the only reson she married my father is so I wouldn't be called names because my parents had a child and were not married. I highly doubt that would've happened, but it is an example of whats others may think of having kids and not marrying.

Ningage wrote: Meh, I want to have the same rights to get married as a straight couple, but I don't necessarily want to get married.

I don't need a piece of paper to prove my love, do I?

civil union. better than marriage.
but then again, not something i'm likely to ever do

rockitemokid wrote: I don't really care either way.
I have a view of marriage that uses agnostic qualifications.

If I'm with someone long enough, and they want to think about marriage, I'm probably open to it.
If no one talks of marriage, or I feel I'd rather just not get married, then I'm down with that too.

It's all about the who, what, when, where, and how.

This,
yet I'm more for civil union vs. marriage now that I've read KK's posts. It makes more sense.

hayzee007 wrote: if you decide to get married..you are MARRIED. the only reason you should sleep with anyone who isnt your partner is if your swingers. and if that is the case... theres always free clinics to get those problems checked..

there is NEVER a reason to sleep with someone other than your partner. married or not married, swinger or not swinger, cheating is disgusting and stupid.

zeeky boogy doog wrote: I'm more for civil union vs. marriage now that I've read KK's posts. It makes more sense.

Same.

HxC FiALURE wrote:

hayzee007 wrote: if you decide to get married..you are MARRIED. the only reason you should sleep with anyone who isnt your partner is if your swingers. and if that is the case... theres always free clinics to get those problems checked..

there is NEVER a reason to sleep with someone other than your partner. married or not married, swinger or not swinger, cheating is disgusting and stupid.

thats your opinion.
sometimes certain needs have to be met. it that cant be done within the relationship, it will slowly erode until the relationship fails. and nothing you do or say can make the other person change their mind when they walk away

KittensKill wrote:

HxC FiALURE wrote:

hayzee007 wrote: if you decide to get married..you are MARRIED. the only reason you should sleep with anyone who isnt your partner is if your swingers. and if that is the case... theres always free clinics to get those problems checked..

there is NEVER a reason to sleep with someone other than your partner. married or not married, swinger or not swinger, cheating is disgusting and stupid.

thats your opinion.
sometimes certain needs have to be met. it that cant be done within the relationship, it will slowly erode until the relationship fails. and nothing you do or say can make the other person change their mind when they walk away

so you're saying that if one partner isn't good in bed, they'll stop loving each other and then it's ok to cheat, or just end the relationship?

HxC FiALURE wrote:

KittensKill wrote:

HxC FiALURE wrote:

hayzee007 wrote: if you decide to get married..you are MARRIED. the only reason you should sleep with anyone who isnt your partner is if your swingers. and if that is the case... theres always free clinics to get those problems checked..

there is NEVER a reason to sleep with someone other than your partner. married or not married, swinger or not swinger, cheating is disgusting and stupid.

thats your opinion.
sometimes certain needs have to be met. it that cant be done within the relationship, it will slowly erode until the relationship fails. and nothing you do or say can make the other person change their mind when they walk away

so you're saying that if one partner isn't good in bed, they'll stop loving each other and then it's ok to cheat, or just end the relationship?

I made a thread about this, but what says that sex is so magical and sacred that it can only be shared with one person? It's basically the Judeo-Christian tradition that makes you believe that.

Ningage wrote:

HxC FiALURE wrote:

KittensKill wrote:

HxC FiALURE wrote:

hayzee007 wrote: if you decide to get married..you are MARRIED. the only reason you should sleep with anyone who isnt your partner is if your swingers. and if that is the case... theres always free clinics to get those problems checked..

there is NEVER a reason to sleep with someone other than your partner. married or not married, swinger or not swinger, cheating is disgusting and stupid.

thats your opinion.
sometimes certain needs have to be met. it that cant be done within the relationship, it will slowly erode until the relationship fails. and nothing you do or say can make the other person change their mind when they walk away

so you're saying that if one partner isn't good in bed, they'll stop loving each other and then it's ok to cheat, or just end the relationship?

I made a thread about this, but what says that sex is so magical and sacred that it can only be shared with one person? It's basically the Judeo-Christian tradition that makes you believe that.

That's not what I was saying.
I'm not saying sex should only be between one person. But if you're in a relationship, you don't have sex with someone else.
Sure, some people have orgies and whatnot. That's their choice, and both the partners are ok with fucking other people. But to be sleeping with someone and then go sleep with someone else is fucking disgusting.

HxC FiALURE wrote: That's not what I was saying.
I'm not saying sex should only be between one person. But if you're in a relationship, you don't have sex with someone else.
Sure, some people have orgies and whatnot. That's their choice, and both the partners are ok with fucking other people. But to be sleeping with someone and then go sleep with someone else is fucking disgusting.

What makes it disgusting? I was saying exactly what you're not

I'm not talking about consensual orgies, I'm saying why is sex supposed to be so magical and special that it should only be between two people who love each other? Does a leprechaun pop out of your ass after you reach orgasm? It's simply an interactive act used for recreation if done safely, so why should it only be between the two people?

Ningage wrote:

HxC FiALURE wrote: That's not what I was saying.
I'm not saying sex should only be between one person. But if you're in a relationship, you don't have sex with someone else.
Sure, some people have orgies and whatnot. That's their choice, and both the partners are ok with fucking other people. But to be sleeping with someone and then go sleep with someone else is fucking disgusting.

What makes it disgusting? I was saying exactly what you're not

I'm not talking about consensual orgies, I'm saying why is sex supposed to be so magical and special that it should only be between two people who love each other? Does a leprechaun pop out of your ass after you reach orgasm? It's simply an interactive act used for recreation if done safely, so why should it only be between the two people?

I never said any of that.
I didn't say sex should only be between people who love each other. I never said any of that bullshit.
Only thing I said was that cheating is disgusting.
That's my opinion, and I have reasons for it too.

You're not getting what I'm saying. I'm not just talking about orgies and crap, I'm saying why can't I sleep with a guy I like, then go and sleep with another guy? What's so disgusting about it?

You're saying this stuff with no reasoning behind it.

Ningage wrote: You're not getting what I'm saying. I'm not just talking about orgies and crap, I'm saying why can't I sleep with a guy I like, then go and sleep with another guy? What's so disgusting about it?

You're saying this stuff with no reasoning behind it.

That's fine, if you're not in a relationship with either guy. And if they know you're not in a relationship. You're saying like fuckbuddies, or one-night-stands.
Like I said, fine as long as you're not in a relationship. I wouldn't do that but that's my personal choice.

You're not reading my posts. I said I had reasoning. And I do. Excuse me if I don't want to share them with you.

HxC FiALURE wrote:

Ningage wrote: You're not getting what I'm saying. I'm not just talking about orgies and crap, I'm saying why can't I sleep with a guy I like, then go and sleep with another guy? What's so disgusting about it?

You're saying this stuff with no reasoning behind it.

That's fine, if you're not in a relationship with either guy. And if they know you're not in a relationship. You're saying like fuckbuddies, or one-night-stands.
Like I said, fine as long as you're not in a relationship. I wouldn't do that but that's my personal choice.

You're not reading my posts. I said I had reasoning. And I do. Excuse me if I don't want to share them with you.

OH NOEZ!!! YOU WERE CHEATED ON AND EMOTIONALLY HURT IN THE PAST!! YOU'RE SO ALONE IN THAT!! So was I, you don't see me whining about it. Does this give boys who were molested by older men the excuse to hate all gays? Sure, I feel for them, but that doesn't make it less douchey.

And I'm talking about if I have a boyfriend, and I just have sex with another guy. Maybe my boyfriend knows? Who cares? Sex isn't honestly that magical or amazing. Like I said, it's an interactive act that's gone out of the way because of Judeo-Christian moral and imprints on our society.

I've never cheated, and I'm not planning too, simply because I don't see the point, but I'm not going to whine and bitch at someone for cheating. As long as the other person knows.