Keeping certain things from my family..

Well, first off my family is really strict. Super effing religious and against a lot. I've never really fitted in at all.

The problem is i don't believe in their religion (Christian) at all. I don't believe in god. And im also bi. Mostly interested in girls and my mom threatened that if i ever dated a girl id be kicked out of the house. Now my family knows nothing at all about these things and i want to know if i should tell them. Just opinions and things. Im afraid if i tell them i will never be fit for the family. I would rather them know but i would be shunned by them, and never talk to them cause im 'unclean' or whatever. But if i get caught or whatever im in deep shit.

So, opinions?

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First of all, your sig is full of win.

Second, your only 14, if your age is right.
You might grow out of the Bi thing.
I know when I was 13ish I thought I was most definitely gay, but I didn't say anything, and I still don't mind the thought of chicks, but I don't feel so drawn to it, and I'm more comfortable.

I would wait till your older.
Because, despite them loving you, they might act out of unfounded prejudice.
I would wait till your older just so you A) can support yourself B) are super sure you are what you think you are.

Well if you feel you could pull it off, you could have a relationship like that in secrecy. Not exactly totally honest but that's up to you to decide to care. Otherwise you would likely have to wait till you lived on your own to be able to make this decision freely. Assuming you want the real thing, these are the two options that I see.

@rockitemokid-
Thank you, my favorite quote.

And that makes plenty of sense to me, but i've pretty much known for a while. I am 14 and turning 15 in March but i believe ive known sense i was in 5/6th grade. I think so. You do make a good point that it may change as i get older though.

@Archvile-
I've thought of that quite often, actually. To have a relationship in secrecy.
And waiting till i live on my own does give me plenty of time to think and all.

Thank you, by the way.
Both of you.

You're welcome, hun.
If you want to talk more, you can PM me. =]

Welcome, good luck.

Thank you again. (:

I would recommend waiting until you are no longer dependent on them.

You're 14...you got three more years before she can kick you out.
And as for being bi...most poeple around your age thinks that they are bi...two years go by they grew out of it.

It gets easier the closer you get to turning 18. My family was the same way. I don't smoke or drink around them, but they know I do it. I don't go to church with them either. In fact I don't go at all. It's sooo sweet. But I also try to leave before they get back. I don't know why, but I do.

But really, the closer you get to 18 the easier it gets.

honestly, i would advise you not to tell your family. as nice as it is to be out of the closet with everyone, it is only a happy time if the people you care about are oke with it.
if you told your parents, would they be oke with it in time? would they come around? if so, then tell them. if not, bring it up gently, little by little, until when you tell them they aren't surprised, meaning they handle it better.

wait until you are closer to the age where you can move out safely. because then, if they hate you, you can just leave and you have less time facing their disapproval every day

And seriously just hold on to that shit until your parents are softer about it or until you're closer to 18. Seriously, it'll be a tough time. For a while I had to keep my lack of faith and sexuality a secret, but I'm pretty outward about it, though my dad still refuses to believe I'm really gay, and that I'm a good ol' Christian.

Seriously, most kids your age think that they're bi. Not saying you're not, but it is a common 'fad' nowadays.
Try and just find yourself out with experimentation before declaring anything out. I know people who weren't 'bi' but thought they were then declared it out to everyone that they might be gay, then found out that they were just going through sexual confusion, and that finding the same sex could be attractive and being really close to them at the same time did not make them 'bi' or gay, just normal, then they were embarrassed as shit.