I was having a bad day, and my boyfriend kept asking what was wrong, and I told him I didn't want to talk about it.

A few minutes later he asked me again, and i was thinking about it.
And he got this really.... empty look in his eyes, and he looked really angry.
(my dad used to hit me..and he'd get that look too, so it is quite familiar to me...)
So i was kindof expecting it, he raised his hand to hit my face, and i caught his hand and pushed him away.
Then i walked away feeling really bad.

I would've broken up with him already, but I've known him almost my whole life.
And he's never acted that way. Usually he's one of the nicest people i know....
I didn't think it was possible for someone to get so mad about something that small.
it was just.. so out of character.
And i care about him alot...
He hasn't done anything like that since, but i'm constantly thinking about it, and i find myself afraid to be around him.

i just.... i don't know what to do.

Wow.. that's a hard one.
I wouldnt put up with the abuse,
but I would find out why he hit me.
I dont know, it sorta reminds me of Garden State,
How his mom was always sad and it just made him so mad that he couldnt make her happy.
so he hit her.
I dont know, maybe its along the same lines?

If you're having a bad day, he shouldn't come off and hit you for no reason. He should wait and be patient til you're ready to talk about it.

It's showing that he really cares for you that's all. I think he did it because he cares about you so much.

Wow, thats wierd... if he doesnt apologize then somethings up, just tell him that it made your problems worse and it made you scared and afraid.
Im sure he will understand and apologize, but if he doesnt, he shouldn't be your boyfriend.

It's showing that he really cares for you that's all. I think he did it because he cares about you so much

wow....who the fuck hits somone cuz they care about them......your stupid.

Ok, anyway...that is really bizare behavior for somone who has never shown signs of that before. Tell him that it scared you, and you dont want to be afraid anymore. Also if he tries to hit you, to a cup ckeck to him.....then ask him how he feels. This could escalate to somthing very dangerous...so be careful. I hope this helps!

a guy hitting a girl is just strait wrong. the last time i seen that happen the guys blood was stained on the wall of my school but he deserved it.

anyways back on topic

did u know how his day went? maybe he was having an bad day too and prolly felt like u just blew him off and just snapped. but non the less there was no call for that. just talk to him about it

You shouldn't put up with crap like that. It doesn't matter how he was feeling. There is no excuse or reason for him to hit you.

First, I would ask him why he did it.

Second, I MIGHT give him another chance if he could explain.

Third, if he ever hit me again, I would punch him in the facce and break up with his sorry ass.

That is what I would do. You might be different, but I hope I helped at least a little.

I've tried talking to him about it..
but every time that i do, he tries to change the subject, or doesn't say anything, and then he won't really talk at all.

You need to find out why he did it. Explain to him that it freaked you out and that you just wanna know why. If he tries it again, LEAVE HIM! Don't put up with anyone hitting you EVER! Even if he begs for forgiveness, don't go back.

Honestly, if I was there...I would of kicked his @$$, because no women deserves to be hit. If he really cared about you then why would be hitting. If you hurt the person you love then you're only hurting yourself...thats all I got to say. I can't make you break up with him, this is your choice. You should never be afraid being around the person you love either. I hope you make the right decision...good luck

seepingwound wrote: I've tried talking to him about it..
but every time that i do, he tries to change the subject, or doesn't say anything, and then he won't really talk at all.

So basically you don't talk with each other? You refuse to tell him about your problems and he refuses to tell you about his problems.
You should really change that if you want this relationship to last.

About the hitting: I think everyone deserves a second chance (not a third).
Especially if you wonder because it's so out of character. Did he take any meds or drugs at that time?

BIG RED FLAG.

Split with him. You cannot change abusers. Looks like he's on the fast track to arguing with his fists as a first resort.

OK he shouldn't have hit you that is wrong in every situation, but you need to talk to him make sure you tell him that if he EVER for ANY REASON hits you again, you're gone! Ask him why he hit you.

I think you should be persisten in findout out why he tried to hit you. ...If he keeps changing the subject, then that is a big sign to probably end the relationship. You deserve and explanation.

Since it was out of character for him, you should give him a second chance for now. (I don't believe in third chances however)

If he raises his hand to you again though, you need to end it. And quick. An abuser is usually set in their ways, and won't stop abusing if you let them.