Unforgiveable wrote: It's showing that he really cares for you that's all. I think he did it because he cares about you so much.

Wtf? How would that say that he cared for her...when he was gonna fuckin hit her?!

You hit outta anger...not love...

seepingwound wrote: I've tried talking to him about it..
but every time that i do, he tries to change the subject, or doesn't say anything, and then he won't really talk at all.

so insist on the subject.
if he tries to change the subject tell him to stop it and keep asking him.
if he doesn't talk at all give him the hardest look you can give him.

First of all, It really kills you inside when your girlfriend is having a hard time and she doesn't want to tell you why... It's like breaking a guys heart...

May sound weird, but he really loves you...
He probably has a small problem with controlling his frustrations, he probably had a "nice day" himself and you we're just in the wrong place at the wrong time saying the "wrong" things...
Let him know he really hurt you when he did that and that you want to know why he did it...
Like all the other people said: INSIST ON THE SUBJECT

Give him a second chance.
Call your dad when he does it again...

farid wrote: First of all, It really kills you inside when your girlfriend is having a hard time and she doesn't want to tell you why... It's like breaking a guys heart...

May sound weird, but he really loves you...
He probably has a small problem with controlling his frustrations, he probably had a "nice day" himself and you we're just in the wrong place at the wrong time saying the "wrong" things...
Let him know he really hurt you when he did that and that you want to know why he did it...
Like all the other people said: INSIST ON THE SUBJECT

Give him a second chance.
Call your dad when he does it again...

don't make excuses for abuse.

I'm not... But you have to view it from different perspectives.
She knows him almost her whole life and this is the first time he did something like that...
It's still wrong he hit her...

farid wrote: I'm not... But you have to view it from different perspectives.
She knows him almost her whole life and this is the first time he did something like that...
It's still wrong he hit her...

Regardless, I'm of the persuasion that if he swung at her once, he'll do it again when his emotions get too much for him to handle rationally. I'm the daughter of a wife-beater and a battered wife. I know about shit like this.

i talked to him about it...
or atleast i tried, and he hit my face, again.
hes been hitting me alot lately, so i broke up with him.
and now he's begging me to take him back, but i just can't.
i'm afraid him, and all i want him to do is leave me alone, and he won't........
this is killing me.
what am i supposed to do now

Get over him by finding a boyfriend who really loves you...
Breaking up is always hard in the beginning, even more when he's begging you and saying he's sorry...
Just don't forget why you broke up...


Karma to Strawberry Switchblade : )
You we're right ^^


EDIT: About the fact that he won't leave you alone:
Block him on AIM/MSN/Yahoo or what ever, don't pick up when he's trying to call you and ignore him when you see him.
If he hit's you again tell your mom or dad...

seepingwound wrote: i talked to him about it...
or atleast i tried, and he hit my face, again.
hes been hitting me alot lately, so i broke up with him.
and now he's begging me to take him back, but i just can't.
i'm afraid him, and all i want him to do is leave me alone, and he won't........
this is killing me.
what am i supposed to do now

Report him to the authorities. This is no laughing matter.
inform your parents, his parents, and then the police. If he is going to be broken of this, it needs to be now. I know you may not want to go this far, but if he did it to you, he will do it to another woman, and every woman after that unless he is put in therapy now. If you would prefer, write a letter to your parents. Take pictures of any bruises or cuts caused be him hitting you. Evidence is a very powerful thing.

Never be alone with him. Seriously. Violence escalates quickly.

I'm sorry this happened, hon. It's not your fault AT ALL, and you don't deserve this.

confront him, tell him how your not going to take his abuse and that if he loves you he won't do it again, but if he hits you once then he'll do it again! abuse does follow a pattern maybe he was hit when he was younger as well. Maybe he needs help, but i wouldnt stay if your getting hurt.

enigma wrote: confront him, tell him how your not going to take his abuse and that if he loves you he won't do it again, but if he hits you once then he'll do it again! abuse does follow a pattern maybe he was hit when he was younger as well. Maybe he needs help, but i wouldnt stay if your getting hurt.

No, don't even go near him. If he's distraught his emotions may come out in his fists again. DO NOT BE ALONE WITH HIM. I'm dead serious about that.

Did you tell anyone?
If that's not like him, could he have been drunk, or god forbid, on drugs?
I don't know, I'm probably assuming the worst.

Unforgiveable wrote: It's showing that he really cares for you that's all. I think he did it because he cares about you so much.

oh yeah, that makes so much fucking sense.

2be honest dump him if my bf hit me (even though ive neva had 1) i would beat the crap out of him

sexyemowarrior926 wrote: 2be honest dump him if my bf hit me (even though ive neva had 1) i would beat the crap out of him

Doll, hate to break it to you, but I doubt that. Even if he did, throwing yourself at him would make the matter so much worse. This is destructive thinking.