Obama eliminating the "don't ask, don't tell" policy came up. it ended with us all arguing, them against me, and me crying. the last time they saw me cry was when a friend of mine died on march 23, 2008. then my dad got all upset, like he cant talk without hurting anyones feelings and my sister and mom kept elling at me about it and my brother was screaming and hitting me.
the whole time i was like WTF!?! they think i got upset because they don't agree with me but it's because the way they were talking was like horrible and i know if i ever told them i was a lesbian, then they would hate me. i just don't know what to do and im hurting so bad.
i just need some advise like crazy.!
I'm a lesbian && my family is homophobic! PLEASE HEL
I'm a lesbian && my family is homophobic! PLEASE HEL
by dejectedxxbliss on 01-25-2009 7:49 am
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by XDieXTrichX on 01-25-2009 8:56 am
give your mother the guilt trip.
okay you ask " mother would you love me if i was even a murder.. a monster?" cause remember your mother carried you inside of her for nine months and even after that she was the one that fed you and kept you alive. and even if she is now like a total uncaring bitch she still has a oxytocin gland. oxytocin is the trust hormone. when mothers give birth here blood is full of this hormone, this hormone is in her blood so she dosent reject the baby. Now in her later life the oxytocin is at a lower level but still her mind is a mothers mind and will always tell her to care for here for baby. this is were the guilt trip comes in this will put her brain into saying " OMG MY BABY SHES TROUBLED KICK IN THE OXYTOCIN !".
so yeah thats prety much it. just sit and talk about motherhood i guess and ask about unconditional love
okay you ask " mother would you love me if i was even a murder.. a monster?" cause remember your mother carried you inside of her for nine months and even after that she was the one that fed you and kept you alive. and even if she is now like a total uncaring bitch she still has a oxytocin gland. oxytocin is the trust hormone. when mothers give birth here blood is full of this hormone, this hormone is in her blood so she dosent reject the baby. Now in her later life the oxytocin is at a lower level but still her mind is a mothers mind and will always tell her to care for here for baby. this is were the guilt trip comes in this will put her brain into saying " OMG MY BABY SHES TROUBLED KICK IN THE OXYTOCIN !".
so yeah thats prety much it. just sit and talk about motherhood i guess and ask about unconditional love
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by ohliveuh on 01-25-2009 9:16 am
XDieXTrichX wrote: give your mother the guilt trip.
okay you ask " mother would you love me if i was even a murder.. a monster?" cause remember your mother carried you inside of her for nine months and even after that she was the one that fed you and kept you alive. and even if she is now like a total uncaring bitch she still has a oxytocin gland. oxytocin is the trust hormone. when mothers give birth here blood is full of this hormone, this hormone is in her blood so she dosent reject the baby. Now in her later life the oxytocin is at a lower level but still her mind is a mothers mind and will always tell her to care for here for baby. this is were the guilt trip comes in this will put her brain into saying " OMG MY BABY SHES TROUBLED KICK IN THE OXYTOCIN !".
so yeah thats prety much it. just sit and talk about motherhood i guess and ask about unconditional love
People will go far for their beliefs.
I mean, that's worth a shot.
But people can be cold and heartless.
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by Strawberry Switchblade on 01-25-2009 5:53 pm
Personally? I'd wait until they no longer support you. Then drop the bomb.
I hate to tell you to sit in the closet, but that versus how they might possibly treat you should you tell them before you leave the nest, I think the closet is rather comfy.
I hate to tell you to sit in the closet, but that versus how they might possibly treat you should you tell them before you leave the nest, I think the closet is rather comfy.
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by xXcoldxxheartXx on 01-25-2009 6:03 pm
ohliveuh wrote:
People will go far for their beliefs.
I mean, that's worth a shot.
But people can be cold and heartless.
sounds like ur talking 'bout me there(refering to username) lol ok on point now
My friend before she came out of the "closet" she was dropping little hints even if they may not have known. When she finally told her parents its wasnt that big of a surprise then. Basically after she told them they added all the stuff she said up and figured out that she was telling them all along and it comforted the blow(srry if i make no sense!..im lacking sleep from going out the past two nights)
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Re: I'm a lesbian && my family is homophobic! PLEASE
by L on 01-25-2009 6:05 pm
What's that?dejectedxxbliss wrote: Obama eliminating the "don't ask, don't tell" policy came up.
And did you tell them so or do you expect them to read your mind?dejectedxxbliss wrote: they think i got upset because they don't agree with me but it's because the way they were talking was like horrible
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Re: I'm a lesbian && my family is homophobic! PLEASE
by Strawberry Switchblade on 01-25-2009 6:10 pm
L wrote:What's that?dejectedxxbliss wrote: Obama eliminating the "don't ask, don't tell" policy came up.
It's a policy in the US military in which suspected gays are not asked if they are homosexual and homosexuals do not inform the military that they are gay. Being gay in the military results in General Discharge from the military and is placed on your record. Fortunately it's not Dishonorable Discharge, but it is wrong nonetheless and there is big talk about reversing it and not making homosexuality a crime in the US Military.
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I'm a lesbian && my family is homophobic! PLEASE HEL
by dejectedxxbliss on 01-26-2009 6:42 am
Personally? I'd wait until they no longer support you. Then drop the bomb.
I hate to tell you to sit in the closet, but that versus how they might possibly treat you should you tell them before you leave the nest, I think the closet is rather comfy.
that is what i am thinking. but it is really hard because while im hiding myself they are denouncing everything about it. just thinking about it, and they have been reminding me, makes me sick to my stomach, quite literally. the way they act its like ... the salem witch trials all over again. i always thought them to be open-minded like they claim to be but ... they're not and it kills me.
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by NyappyNinjaKiDD on 01-26-2009 9:31 pm
i think you tell them why you want to tell them and then get off your chest. if they disaree tell them i dont care if you care i just want you be okay with my new lifestyle . besides all famlies agrgue but in the end all they want is the best
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by NyappyNinjaKiDD on 01-26-2009 9:33 pm
uhh change care if you care to if you agree. your family should still love you even you are gay it will jsut take time to adjust to the new you..
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by Enjoy Watching You Suffer on 02-01-2009 8:33 pm
you cant tell your parents cause they would HATE you maybe. i would hope not .but maybe what you have to do is not tell them untill you are ready to move out cause then they cant do anything to you cause you are grown lolz but yeah . so maybe you should just wait ..like sit them down nd say i have something to tell you that i have kept in for a long time nd say ima lesbian. nd see what they if they dont care. them be like .i did not tell you a long time ago cause i did not know if you would hate me or not but yeah. sometihn like that lolz i hope i helped a ^_^
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RE: I'm a lesbian && my family is homophobic! PLEASE
by dejectedxxbliss on 02-02-2009 6:53 am
i dont think will tell them. i mean it is very helpful to hear what other people think. i mean i live in a military community overseas and they aren't all very accepting. it's hard not to be able to tell even some of my closest friends because of how they feel about it. im probably going to wait until i am ready to leave and not come back.
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Re: I'm a lesbian && my family is homophobic! PLEASE
by TeenageVampire on 02-07-2009 10:19 pm
dejectedxxbliss wrote: Obama eliminating the "don't ask, don't tell" policy came up. it ended with us all arguing, them against me, and me crying. the last time they saw me cry was when a friend of mine died on march 23, 2008. then my dad got all upset, like he cant talk without hurting anyones feelings and my sister and mom kept elling at me about it and my brother was screaming and hitting me.
the whole time i was like WTF!?! they think i got upset because they don't agree with me but it's because the way they were talking was like horrible and i know if i ever told them i was a lesbian, then they would hate me. i just don't know what to do and im hurting so bad.
i just need some advise like crazy.!
What I would do:
Bring my Girlfriend home, dangerouse, I know, and introduce her as a friend. They're bound to catch on, and if they confront you, then get mad, just be like
'I like her, so? Besides, you asked.'
But that's just me
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