Ive encountered a similar situation, though it was my uncle.

I remember my aunt telling me that even though he and everybody else knew he was dying and couldnt help it even if we tried to, we tried to give him the most fun we could in his last days alive, so that he could die happy.

If you show sadness toward them, it only breaks their hearts knowing that theyre giving you so much pain and suffering and also knowing they cant do a thing to help you or themselves...

Just try to make the best of a bad situation... and be sure to tell her you love her! I regret not telling my uncle that...

From the opposite side of things, it was probably the hardest thing for her to inform you guys what was going to happen. I know when I told my family about deciding to quit chemotherapy that it broke there hearts, but we try and enjoy the time we do have with each other instead of thinking about the worst.

Everybody has got to go someday.
Wouldn't you rather look at her, remember her face, have some last happy memories?.

Remember the happy times you've shared with her. My grandmother died a couple years ago, and it never really sunk in. I knew it was going to happen, but it happened so suddenly. I had to go to her viewing, funeral, travel a couple days across country to her burial, and saw her each time, and it was just so surreal. I saw people crying around me, and knew I was supposed to be sad, but somehow I couldn't be...Partially because I was always remembering the fun times I had with her.
And I found out my other grandmother is due to pass anytime now, we found out about a year ago, and I saw her about two months ago, for her 80th birthday, and I just kept looking at her and her apartment thinking "And she's going to die?" because she was...is...so full of life still.
So smile, remember the good times, remind her of the good times. Its okay to cry, I mean its your grandmother, but...Don't mourn her for her death, or the day you found out she was going to die. Celebrate her for her life, and all the good times you had with her.

My granmother died a about 5 years ago, and I knew she was really sick I was young at the time and knew she was sick but didn't think she would die, within a year after I last visited her she was in a nursing home dying. My dad went to say goodbye, and teared up like a baby, I would have to seeing her there in the back of nursing home dying, it made me cry hearing about. Well we were really close, and it hurt really bad when she died, so bad after that I got really emotionally sick that I even wanted to commit suicide, but I didn't and I was taken to a Shrink and given Prozac, now that I think about her, it still hurts. But The good times make the pain go away.

I'm a little better, but not quite, my 'sob'story is true, but you're old enough to understand that granparents get old and that dying is part of life, at the time my grandmother passed away I didn't understand. THe last time I saw her, i guess I kind of knew I wouldn't see her again, so I think it would be great if you looked at your grandmother until the end, for her sake, I guess she wouldn't want to be not looked at just because she's dying.

visit her. be happy. Do it for her.

thanks everybody for helping :] i went over her house and i just talked to a lot of frieds and laughed a lot before i went over and so i was happy and she was happy to see me happy, so again thanks

thats so great! im so happy to hear that. really, it was a good thing you did that. you would've regretted it if you didnt.