Help, please.

Help, please.

by UrCarsOnFire on 07-22-2008 11:32 pm

Alright. My friend invited me to go on vacation with him and his other friends this weekend, who I hardly know. Ive met them before for like two minutes, just exchanging names and such. My problem is, they are extremely intimadating. I mean they (his other friends) are gorgous, outgoing, and always have something interesting to say. And I'm well.. me. Very.. "shy" and reserved, hardly ever know what to say. My point is, I reallly want to go on vacation with them, but I'm so nervous about it. How should I calm my nerves? Any suggestions?

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by restlessOK on 07-22-2008 11:54 pm

My advice is probably not going to do you much good. Mostly because I don't understand really want it feels like to be shy. I guess it's a personality type thing.

Things might be awkward for a while. But if you're on vacation with these people you're going to be around them all the time. You will get to know them. You'll probably get to know them very well. And probably really quickly too. The awkward stage won't last forever- maybe a few hours tops.
I think the problem might be (and correct me if I'm wrong) that you're comparing yourself to these people. Do you think you're un-gorgeous or un-outgoing? Do you think you never have anything interesting to say? Because you're probably vaguely similar to these people since you have a common friend who at least thinks of you in a similar category or else he wouldn't have invited you both.
Ways to calm your nerves: Energy drinks help if you're feeling sluggish or lazy and just feel like sitting around and staying away from people. I'm not going to tell you to get drunk but a bit of alcohol can both relax you and give you a confidence boost (if you can legally buy it, of course). Yeah, really. getting drunk might do the opposite in the long run so I would recommend limiting it. Wearing red is another confidence booster for myself. I guess just wearing things you feel good in would work. Force yourself to say stuff, to act friendly and participate in their conversation, to smile or laugh at whatever they just said. basically, fake it for a while and after a few hours it probably will just come naturally.
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by SplitThought on 07-23-2008 2:41 am

Well, this might not exactly work for you, I don't know... Seems to work for me and a few of my friends... Just hope it helps.

Whenever you feel your heart quickening, something like butterflies in your stomach, or just the urge to walk away because you're blushing, try to hold onto something, like a necklace or a lucky charm. Put your faith into it, and it could work. Keep it in your pocket. Keep it as a reminder, "Oh, well I'm shy... But c'mon, there's a prize to be had at the end of the tunnel!" If one of them starts to show a bit of an opening for you, see what you have in common. Stutter if you have to. Try to tell them the truth if it gets that far into a friendship, or if it gets farther than just that. Whatever you do, just don't go too far with something until you feel that they're ready for it. If you have nothing in common with them, abandon ship...

But first, seriously, you should know if they're either gay or taken. Or both.

Just a thought.
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by XxSocialRejectxX on 07-24-2008 11:31 pm

I would bring a good friend along. Somebody whom you are already comfortable with. A girl would be best. Espepecialy if it will be all guys and just you on vacation. Try not to catch yourself alone with them either. But, as the others have said, talk to them and find something in common with them. If they make you nervous and intimidate you even after you've tried your best to get along with them then just steer clear of them and enjoy the vacation with the people that you enjoy being around.
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