Am I in the wrong?

Am I in the wrong?

by BrooklynRebellion on 11-18-2009 1:25 am

I'm not sure where my life is going anymore. you're probably going to think i'm being a drama queen but you dont know the half of it.
I'm constantly getting bitched at about how i'm a "smartass" and how I dont care about anybody but myself. by my fucking own parents.

My parents were yelling at me about getting bad grades and how I'll never get anywhere in life and asking what i was thinking on doing and i told them i didn't know and they said that i act way too old and that i don't know anything about how I'm supposed to be and that i have the spirit of the devil in me, and they said if i don't straighten up I'm going to boot camp. then they started bitching on how i never told them how i felt and so i did, and then they started yelling at me for being a "smart ass" and telling me to get out of the house, thinking that i wouldn't because they don't think I'm strong enough or know anyone.
They're always bitching at me about how I never tell them how i feel about anything, and they told me that I should tell them and so I did, and they started bitching at me even more and I told them that they told me and they're like "WELL YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A SMART ASS ABOUT IT." and i told them that i wasn't and they started yelling at me for "talking back."

I'm sick of this shit. They think they know who I am and they expect me to be just like everyone else in this fucking world. They just don't understand that I'm tired of it, I'm sitting here shaking, crying my eyes out, and they saw me. They just keep telling me to keep on talking and that I should tell them how I feel, but how can I when whenever I tell them, they yell at me? They put on this perfect little family act whenever my friends are over or they're meeting someone for the first time, and my closest friends know that its bullshit. I'm tired of this.
I may or may not be leaving the house tonight, what the hell are they going to do, call the cops on me? But at the same time I need to get out of here. They're always telling me how they love me so much and how I'm number one in their life, but they never ask how my day is going or talk to me other than anything about school work and bills. How the fuck is that loving me?
But I'm not taking them for granted, so don't jump to that conclusion. I know they're working hard for me to have an alright life, but money can't buy happiness. They don't know how much it hurts when I hear them talking shit about me downstairs to someone I don't even know.

Maybe I just need to get out of here for a night or something. I'll check around and see If i can stay anywhere.
Hopefully this gets better, i really care about them. But its hard when all they ever do is criticize me.

Am I in the wrong?

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by cutiepiex0x0 on 11-18-2009 2:05 am

This should be in Help and Advice

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by raynboe on 11-18-2009 3:50 am

cutiepiex0x0 wrote: This should be in Help and Advice
your oh so helpful.

anyways. I think maybe leaving randomly might help. thats what I did

But, it did make me end up half way across the country with the man Im in love with.

I honestly dont know what to tell you, except from the way you make it sound, your not wrong at all. cheer up kiddo. Take a step back and ask yourself, if you ahd to leave right now what would you miss? What would you take with you? What is the limit before you break and cant take it anymore?
Once those things are figured out, Id start packing.


But thats just me.

Some people aren't meant to be parents, but look at it this way, If they weren't the way they are you wouldn't have grown to be smart/beautiful/strong women that you are. Now find the right decision for yourself, and only for yourself.

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by cutiepiex0x0 on 11-18-2009 12:09 pm

Write them a letter.

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Re: Am I in the wrong?

by L on 11-18-2009 12:34 pm

BrooklynRebellion wrote: My parents were yelling at me about getting bad grades and how I'll never get anywhere in life
Well, that is a reason to yell at you. Or well... probably they don't know how else to handle it.
You should think about your future a little. Being without proper education/graduation isn't going to be easy in the future.

BrooklynRebellion wrote: They're always bitching at me about how I never tell them how i feel about anything, and they told me that I should tell them and so I did, and they started bitching at me even more and I told them that they told me and they're like "WELL YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A SMART ASS ABOUT IT." and i told them that i wasn't and they started yelling at me for "talking back."
Well, a big thing about saying something is what you say and how you say it.
So what did you say? Were you annoyed and snappy?


raynboe wrote: from the way you make it sound, your not wrong at all.
Duh. Of course.

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by Strawberry Switchblade on 11-18-2009 2:36 pm

raynboe wrote:
cutiepiex0x0 wrote: This should be in Help and Advice
your oh so helpful.


My have we got a napoleon complex?

raynboe wrote: anyways. I think maybe leaving randomly might help. thats what I did


Just because you're a dumbass for running away, doesn't mean you should encourage others to break the law.

raynboe wrote: But, it did make me end up half way across the country with the man Im in love with.


Not even touching that.

raynboe wrote: I honestly dont know what to tell you, except from the way you make it sound, your not wrong at all. cheer up kiddo. Take a step back and ask yourself, if you ahd to leave right now what would you miss? What would you take with you? What is the limit before you break and cant take it anymore?
Once those things are figured out, Id start packing.


Better questions would be: How would I support myself if I decide I should leave? Should I stay with relatives or get emancipated? Is it better to duck my head for another three years or leave elsewhere?
And running away is illegal and she will be tracked. If they catch her, which they likely will, she will be subject to legal consequences that, I assure you, will make matters ten times worse. Run away laws are bitch and a half. So quit encouraging her to break the law.

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RE: Am I in the wrong?

by Effy on 11-18-2009 4:16 pm

OP: Getting yelled at is upsetting yes. And it's horrible to be picked on by your parents etc. but running away is completely over-dramatic. Get a bit of preceptive: you're not being beaten or abused, you just had a bad argument with your parents. It seems like a big deal now, but it isn't. You just have to keep out of your parents way for a few days and work harder at school and this whole thing will just blow over.

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by TextFire on 11-23-2009 6:57 pm

When they are not upset with you in the slightest talk to them about your issues.

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by skylar the strange on 11-23-2009 7:24 pm

Hmm. I would say if you do decide to "run away" go to a friends house, but make sure the home is a stable environment or a good home. Or you could do the same with a relative. Basically, if you run away and go to a friends house or a family members house and they track you and show up there, they most likely will not take you away because you seem to be in a good environment, you're happy, and you're not oh-so-far away.

When I ran away I went from my mom's mother's appartment across town to my dad's parent's house. When the cop showed up he didn't take me away because I was in a stable environment and I was with family. Best part about it, no one got in trouble.

But really, consider the consiquences.

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by infinitesilence on 11-23-2009 7:29 pm

Too long post is too long.
And if they don't talk to you about how you feel, maybe you should take the initiative to just casually go up and tell them how you feel.
You said that they yelled at you in this situation, but they were already riled up, which is probably why they didn't take what you were saying to heart.
Try to talk to them some more. My parents and I don't talk, but that's because of how I am, and I know if I ever came to them with something, they'd listen.
Just because they don't talk to me doesn't mean that they don't love me. I know they have other stuff going on in their lives, and probably are aware that I am doing semi-okay.

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